Listening is not only about waiting, but it’s also learning how to better ask questions. Jacqueline Novogratz
Teens will listen to you AFTER they feel listened to.
When children hear a command, a signal is sent to the brain that invites resistance. When children hear a respectful question, a signal is sent to the brain to search for an answer. In the process they feel capable and are more likely to cooperate.
Stop “telling” and “ask” curiosity questions (using your own words) such as:
- “What happened?”
- “How do you feel about it?”
- “How do you think others feel?”
- “What ideas do you have to solve this problem?”