Tell everyone you know: “My happiness depends on me, so you’re off the hook.” And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they’re doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel — and then, you’ll love them all. Because the only reason you don’t love them, is because you’re using them as your excuse to not feel good. -Esther Hicks
Emotional adulthood is one of the most powerful tools for getting along with other people– especially our children. Simply put, emotional adulthood means taking responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings rather than blaming other people. Emotional adults don’t get offended easily (or at all!) and they recognize that when people hurt us they usually act out of ignorance, not cruelty.
It sounds so basic, but once you start thinking about emotional adulthood, you’ll recognize many situations where adults act like emotional children– throwing tantrums, getting offended at small slights and blaming others for their feelings.
If you are taking this course as a couple (and we hope you are!), please remember parenting is messy business! We’re all learning and we’re going to make mistakes. Please be kind to yourself and to your co-parent.
On the flip side, we can’t expect full emotional adulthood from our teens. But we can teach emotional adulthood by modeling it ourselves.