making such a big deal

  • Nov 9, 2010

Caramel bubbled on the stove, four trays of pumpkin cookies filled the house with their spicy scent and I stood on tiptoe on a barstool to pull down the silver punch bowl. Stefan poured apple juice into the bowl and I phoned a half-dozen friends while stirring the caramel into fresh popcorn. “Why,” Stefan asked (and if you know Stefan you’ll know that he always asks nicely) “why are you making such a big deal about this? Ben doesn’t expect refreshments and an audience just for opening his mission call.”

“It’s simple,” I laughed, “making a big deal is my job.”

And it is. Mission calls only come once, a child turns ten only once, Santa slides down the chimney for only a few years. Because we recognize how quickly the days and decades pass by, mother’s create the magic and fuss of birthdays, holidays, graduations… it’s our job.

That’s why I consented to a last-minute, highly-disorganized Halloween party– because Hans and Xander will soon be too mature for costume contests and catwalks down the kitchen rug. They might scoff at ‘spin the pumpkin’ and donut eating contests (OK, they’ll never outgrow donut eating). 

I intend to savor each day, each event large and small. Not with stress-inducing perfection– our mission call spread included nothing of nutritional value (unless you count the apple juice) and our Halloween party was chaotic at best– but with joy and gratitude.

It’s my job.


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    Mitchell Family

    November 9, 2010

    Yeah, I went through an over-simplified period and realized some things are worth a big fuss. Hence the glitter t-shirts.

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    November 10, 2010

    And you do it so very well. We didn’t make a big deal about things in my home and thus, my memories of childhood are spotty at best. But your kids will remember the pumpkin tossing and the fashion shows and the legos on the floor for conference forever.

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    November 10, 2010

    you are such a fun mom!
    (you have a water fountain in your house?

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    November 10, 2010

    You are the funnest mom ever. Like ever ever. I adore this post.

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    November 10, 2010

    “I intend to savor each day, each event large and small. Not with stress-inducing perfection…it’s my job…”


    Love you for this and everything else.

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    November 10, 2010

    Oh that’s what I love to do. I love to make a party out of life, even the smallest things! What a lucky family you have.

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    November 10, 2010

    Excuse me? Why did you only post 3 pictures? haha

    (And I’m not sure if you got my email but I’d LOVE to meet up this weekend!)

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    Michelle Custodio

    November 10, 2010

    Your kids are adorable. They look very happy!

    The Wild ones

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    November 10, 2010

    It is my job to make a fuss. They need to know that they are worth making a fuss for. LOVE these photos!

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    November 10, 2010

    And a fun job it is, too!


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    Anna M

    November 10, 2010

    just found you and BOY HOWDY does this resonate with me. “If it’s not a big deal, then you won’t remember it (or me).” I love your boys’ fashion sense, too.

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    November 14, 2010

    YOU are a big deal!

    Love you, love your passion, love your family!