



I worked on hand sewing the binding of Stefan’s college quilt (but didn’t quite finish).
Saturday morning we dumped out our bucket of legos and made crepes just like we do every conference.


But when President Monson oh-so-casually announced a change in mission age– boys can now go at 18, girls at 19– Mormon life, for everyone, changed forever. More than anything, this change calls parents to arms and especially mothers. But more on that in a bit.
screenshot from video on lds.org
I know many of my blog friends are not LDS and it’s hard to explain exactly the ENORMOUS impact this few years adjustment will have on our culture.
In the past, boys left at nineteen or later (the upper age limit is 25) for two years and girls at 21 for eighteen months. Missions for boys are considered a priesthood responsibility and a great option for girls. As a teenager in the 1980s I fervently prayed the mission age would be lowered for young women and expected an announcement every general conference. The announcement didn’t come and in 1997 President Hinckley reaffirmed, “We do not ask the young women to consider a mission as an essential part of their life’s program. Over a period of many years, we have held the age level higher for them in an effort to keep the number going relatively small…I certainly do not wish to say or imply that their services are not wanted. I simply say that a mission is not necessary as a part of their lives.”
Even last week, I mused to a friend, “They’ll never change those age standards.” It reminds me of sitting in a church in East Germany just weeks before the Berlin Wall crashed down. An earnest woman told me, “We’ll never be able to leave this country.”
But two weeks later she strolled into West Germany, and today, thousands of teenage Mormon girls started their mission paperwork.
Now, please, don’t get me wrong. The age standard when I was nineteen was right (in a way the Berlin Wall was NEVER right), President Hinckley spoke perfectly for the time from the 1960s to just last week. I had some incredible experiences between 19 and 21 (six months in Europe, a semester in Hawaii) and met Erik just before I turned 21. Although we briefly discussed me serving a mission while he got a bit more schooling in, we quickly discarded the idea and got married instead (a decision Ben has repeatedly expressed gratitude for since he was born 13 months after our wedding).
But times have changed. And I am grateful for living prophets who receive inspiration and revelation.
they are really good at building quietly during conference, erupting into sound effects and battles between sessions.
What does it mean?
Most boys will leave on missions fresh out of high school. Gone is the goof-off freshman year of college, gone is the idea– “I’ll do want I want now and repent later.”
Many, many more young women will serve. Because we marry young in our culture, and since leaving just before your senior year of college can be extremely disruptive, many girls who would love to serve a mission simply haven’t been able to go at that time in their lives. Those barriers just crumbled.
From Stefan’s realm of acquaintance, he surmises we’ll see as many or more girls than boys serving within a few years. And after my experience with the Young Women, I’ll tell you those girls have sweet, firm relationships with Jesus Christ and knowledge of the atonement. Still, I hope we won’t place undue pressure on any girls who choose not to serve (since this is simply another option) and I hope we won’t judge any boys who choose to serve later or not at all.
“Waiting for a missionary” will slip into antiquity. Girls will be serving their own missions or pursuing other plans and I expect many letters of support will be exchanged between girlfriends and boyfriends and just friends.
Sunday teaching from ages 3-18 will have renewed focus for boys and girls. A new curriculum for the Young Women and Young Men was just released Friday which “invites students, parents, and leaders to study and teach in the Lord’s way.”
More responsibility now rests on parents to prepare their children for missions. Because more missionaries will likely be serving, the time in the Missionary Training Centers will be cut by a third. I love this change and subscribe to the idea the lessons in the MTC should be a review, not a revelation. Cooking, cleaning, washing your laundry and ironing your shirts will receive more emphasis all through the teens.
Since the age change will mean many more families send out two missionaries at once, we will need to support each other financially and emotionally even more than we are now. Donating to someone else’s mission is good for all of us and will unite us as a people. Each congregation will take pride in “our missionaries” rather than leaving the responsibility solely on the family. My family doesn’t need financial support, but I could certainly use more emotional support. No longer will I feel so alone sending out my five boys (and now Mary) in a row, because my friends up the street with six girls are in the same boat.
Speaking of Mary, the likelihood of her serving a mission just flipped from 25% to 95%. And although I’ve always planned to raise her to be strong, self-sufficient and with a firm testimony of Christ, my focus sharpened just a bit over the weekend– in a good way.
I’ve heard a few people worry this age change will result in fewer LDS women finishing college. I suspect the opposite will result. From what I’ve seen, most missionaries return home focused and determined to complete their education.
Our young women who choose to serve missions will be able to receive the blessings of the temple at a younger age (in general, we go to the temple just before mission or a marriage).




Chocolate on my Cranium
Isn’t the change wonderful? I imagine the impact will be far more good than we can even begin to guess. I also thought how prophetic Sister Julie B. Beck was just five years ago in her “Mother Who Know” talk. She said: How prophetic she was in that talk just five years ago: “Think of the power of our future missionary force if mothers considered their homes as a pre–missionary training center. Then the doctrines of the gospel taught in the MTC would be a review and not a revelation. That is influence; that is power.”
There are many youth who are ready and willing to step up right now and turn in their mission papers because their mothers heeded this very call. It is even more imperative now.
In the news conference after that session “Elder Holland also explained that missionaries will be asked to enhance their pre-mission preparation prior to entering the Missionary Training Center (MTC) and that time spent in the MTC will be reduced by approximately one-third for all missionaries. That change will help accommodate an overall increase in missionaries.
“In addition to impacting future missionaries, the change, which is effective immediately, will have an impact on many of the other 14.5 million members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, including the tens of thousands of mothers and fathers who will send their children on missions. In speaking to them, Elder Holland said parents need to help their children prepare for missionary service.” {quote from the newsroom article}
A might change is happening in our homes that will extend to the world.
Tracy
This is wonderful Michelle. xoxo
Cheryl
Thank you so much for such a great post! I find it refreshing since many feminist blogs I’ve been reading have only been saying things like, “It’s about time, but it’s not enough.” *sigh
I’m thrilled with this announcement, and, like you, had it happened in my teen years, I most certainly would have gone. Of course, that would have meant I wouldn’t have met my husband –probably not at all. I’m content with how everything turned out for me, but I’m beyond excited for my girls. 🙂
Handsfullmom
Beautifully said.
Cath
Such a wonderful explanation of the changes now afoot and the excitement surrounding them. Love Mary’s morning hair, the reading perches, and I’m still blown away that you have that many legos on your premises! 😉 Love you M.
Linn
You brought tears to my eyes today. I’ve had so many of these thoughts in my heart the past two days, but you, of course, can share them with clarity and beauty.
“My job has never been more urgent, more important.”
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
After the announcement, Jacob asked me if I thought I would have served a mission had this announcement been made several years earlier (our story is much like yours–only the baby was premature and nine months after we married). 🙂
I replied, “You know, I don’t have an answer to that because it doesn’t matter. The change wasn’t supposed to happen when I was nineteen, so my story was right for me. And I will always be grateful. But this is correct now and our job is to prepare our children to be ready when their call comes.”
A mighty change is happening. I’m so, so thankful for the privilege of doing my small (in 1/12th measurements) part.
Jess
I’m so glad you took the time to write this out and share it. I love reading about the Mormon culture and the opportunities for your children and family. I love that you share openly.
You are dear.