Hans at 21

Because Hans spent the past two years in Madagascar, he hasn’t had a birthday at home since he was in high school; he hasn’t had a birthday with Stefan around since 2012 when we had a Sweet Sixteen party for him at my sister’s house in San Diego.

He’s still the adorable kid I described at sixteen, just a little taller, stronger, smarter and even nicer. You can always count on Hans to laugh at your jokes (even when they’re not very funny), to notice when your having a bad day, to take out the garbage or wash the dishes before anyone asks. He’s quick to offer compliments, slow to take offense and will happily play with your baby any time.

On Hansie’s birthday we were assigned to clean the church and while he could have easily skipped it (he doesn’t even really live at home) he pushed the vacuum, cleaned the windows and emptied garbage after garbage. We didn’t give him bathroom duty– that would just be cruel.

After two years in Madagascar, Hans has trouble staying warm in our colder climate. So all his birthday presents were socks, sweaters, gloves, scarf, hat… oh, and his very own copy of Brandon Sanderson’s Oathbringer.

(Side note: Hans and Gabe kept teasing Stefan about spoilers in Oathbringersince Stefan’s not reading it until after he takes the LSAT on Dec. 2nd. Hans brought up an old story when they were both reading Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince. They got in a fight over something and Stefan yelled, “Snape is the Half- Blood Prince!” Hans thinks that might be the cruelest thing Stefan ever said to him.)

why yes, we do like stripes

No five-year-old was more excited about opening gifts than Hans. He reminded us, “It’s been a long time since I opened a present!”

People often ask Hans if he’s having trouble adjusting to home after his mission. His short answer, “No.” But he still cares deeply about the people of Madagascar and worries about them. You may have heard all LDS missionaries were pulled from Madagascar because of the plague. It’s heartbreaking. Hans explained to us that there are plague deaths in Mada every year, but the disease isn’t usually spread to the cities. For a fragile country mired in poverty, with so many other health risks, further spread of the plague could be devastating. So, if you want to do something for Hans for his birthday, pray for Madagascar, pray for those beautiful people.



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  1. Jane Tallmadge

    November 22, 2017

    A Harry Potter spoiler is perhaps the worst of things to hear ?
    The people of Madagascar will be in my prayers!

  2. Michelle

    November 28, 2017

    My husband did the spoiler thing with HP#7. As they say, you can’t take back words. 🙂

  3. Mary

    November 30, 2017

    When do I finally get to meet you!? I’ve loved your blog for simply years! I ended up in your son’s ward in the avenues last year and they were the cutest nursery teachers! They even remembered Michael when we came back to visit over a year later!!! You have a beautiful family, a beautiful blog, a beautiful life. You are really a beautiful beautiful person and I really want to meet you!!!!

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